A wedding where I could not face the meal

Started 22 April 2026 · 14 replies · 100 hearts · read 1.8k times

GildaTrieste, IT · 22 April 2026

3 months ago

Starting a thread on this because it keeps coming up in ones and twos: A wedding where I could not face the meal

The logistics of this are defeating me more than the medicine is.

My prescriber has been fine, genuinely. The problem is that I get nine minutes twice a year and there is no version of nine minutes that covers this.

What I keep tripping on is not the physical bit. It is the not knowing whether what I am experiencing is normal, and having nobody to ask who is not either selling something or frightened for me.

I have read the guides here, which were more useful than anything else I have found, and I still have a question they do not cover.

I will report back either way, because I have been helped by other people's follow-ups more than by their questions.

GwilymCaernarfon, UK

I have been in this circle a year and this question comes round every few months. It is not a silly question. It is the question.

OttiHarrogate, UK

Gently disagreeing with the opening post, or rather adding the other half of it.

Similar here, and mine turned out to be a completely unrelated deficiency picked up on bloods.

NoorFacilitatorSingapore

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10me too 9

DelphiThessaloniki, GR

Please do not read the comments under news articles about this. I lost a fortnight to that.

KateBelfast, NI

I would take that to a clinician rather than to us, and I would do it this week. Not because it is definitely serious — because it is the sort of thing that is much easier to rule out than to worry about.

Bell ANorwich, UK

Two things that helped me, neither of them clever: small amounts more often, and drinking a lot more than felt necessary.

WystanCheltenham, UK

What the reply above described happened to me too, in a slightly different order.

Mine lasted about seven weeks and then lifted over a few days. I cannot tell you why. I can tell you it lifted.

NolCork, IE

Yes. All of this. I had the same in my third month and I remember thinking there was something specifically wrong with me, which there was not.

4me too 5

AmbroseYork, UK

What the reply above described happened to me too, in a slightly different order.

I keep a two-line diary and it is the only reason I could answer this question about myself. Worth starting even now.

TavitaApia, WS

#10

No advice, just recognition. That sounds exhausting and I am sorry you are in it.

7me too 4

NkosiJohannesburg, ZA

#11

Coming back to this a fortnight later to say it settled. Leaving the update because I hate reading threads that stop.

PerryCardigan, UK

#12

What the reply above described happened to me too, in a slightly different order.

I am the person who had the frightening version of this. I went in, it was investigated, and it was not what anyone feared. Going in is the whole of my advice.

8me too 6

NoorFacilitatorSingapore

#13

I want to slow this down a little. There are four different answers flying about and they are all somebody's real experience, which makes them true and not necessarily relevant to the person who asked.

GildaTrieste, IT

#14

Practical, boring answer: write the three questions down before you go in. I have never once remembered them otherwise.