My husband's side effects and my exhaustion

Started 28 June 2026 · 14 replies · 75 hearts · read 749 times

LandoLeeds, UK · 28 June 2026

3 weeks ago

Something I have been sitting with: My husband's side effects and my exhaustion Not looking for advice so much as other people's experience.

Anyone else navigating this? I feel as though every piece of advice I read was written for someone with a completely different week.

What I would find most useful is not advice. It is somebody describing what their version of this was, and how long it went on for.

Here is where I am. The medication side has been more or less as described, and the part nobody prepared me for is everything around it: what to say to people, how to plan a week, and how to tell the difference between a thing to endure and a thing to raise.

Thanks all. Genuinely.

PamSouthport, UK

Can I gently push back on one thing? Not the substance, just the framing — you have written twice that you should be coping better. Who told you that?

BramberSteyning, UK

Reading the opening post, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

My pharmacist was more use than anyone. Ten minutes at the counter, no appointment, no charge.

4me too 1

WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK

Gently: you have apologised three times in a post where you have done nothing that requires an apology.

PipBristol, UK

I keep a two-line diary and it is the only reason I could answer this question about myself. Worth starting even now.

GigiNaples, IT

Different experience here, for balance. Mine did not improve and in the end I stopped, and that was the right call for me. Both outcomes exist.

BrennaEnniskillen, NI

The phrase that unlocked my appointment was asking what specifically she wanted me to watch for. It moved us from reassurance to a plan in about thirty seconds.

ZoraSarajevo, BA

Gently disagreeing with the reply above, or rather adding the other half of it.

Two things that helped me, neither of them clever: small amounts more often, and drinking a lot more than felt necessary.

5me too 8

ÖzlemIzmir, TR

I would take that to a clinician rather than to us, and I would do it this week. Not because it is definitely serious — because it is the sort of thing that is much easier to rule out than to worry about.

IdrisCardiff, UK

the reply above said something I want to sit with for a second.

Yes. All of this. I had the same in my third month and I remember thinking there was something specifically wrong with me, which there was not.

SableCape Town, ZA

#10

Mine lasted about seven weeks and then lifted over a few days. I cannot tell you why. I can tell you it lifted.

LinnetKendal, UK

#11

Building on what the reply above wrote rather than answering the original question.

I am about four months behind you and I have been dreading exactly this, so thank you for writing it down before I got there.

3me too 4

IzoldaVilnius, LT

#12

No advice, just recognition. That sounds exhausting and I am sorry you are in it.

WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK

#13

Noticing out loud that this conversation has drifted into comparison. That happens without anyone intending it and it does not help anyone. Let us come back to the person who asked.

NkosiJohannesburg, ZA

#14

Yes to the burping. It is real, it is unbeautiful, and it does settle.