What our social worker actually helped with

Started 22 December 2025 · 13 replies · 111 hearts · read 915 times

LandoLeeds, UK · 22 December 2025

7 months ago

Starting a thread on this because it keeps coming up in ones and twos: What our social worker actually helped with

Practical question, and possibly a silly one.

The thing that has surprised me most is how much of this is about other people rather than about me.

I have written down what has actually happened, in order, because I find that more useful than my summary of it.

I have read the guides here, which were more useful than anything else I have found, and I still have a question they do not cover.

Sorry for the length. If anyone has been here, I would very much like to hear it.

SerenLlandudno, UK

What helped was lowering my own expectations of the week rather than trying to hold the week together.

LinnetKendal, UK

My experience was very boring, which I offer as data. Some of us just get a dull time of it.

WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK

Before anyone offers a remedy: what has been described here is on the list of things that need a clinician today rather than a thread. I am going to be firm about that, kindly.

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KeeleyBlackpool, UK

Please do not read the comments under news articles about this. I lost a fortnight to that.

NkosiJohannesburg, ZA

Practical, boring answer: write the three questions down before you go in. I have never once remembered them otherwise.

ÖzlemIzmir, TR

the reply above — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

I did exactly the same and felt terrible about it. You have not done anything wrong.

SableCape Town, ZA

Reading the reply above, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

I am the person who had the frightening version of this. I went in, it was investigated, and it was not what anyone feared. Going in is the whole of my advice.

PamSouthport, UK

Coming back to this a fortnight later to say it settled. Leaving the update because I hate reading threads that stop.

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FitzLimerick, IE

For what it is worth, the trial data on this is thinner than the confidence of the internet would suggest. Worth knowing when you read the posts.

BramberSteyning, UK

#10

It got worse before it got better for me, which I wish someone had said. About ten days of worse.

IzoldaVilnius, LT

#11

the reply above — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

I am about four months behind you and I have been dreading exactly this, so thank you for writing it down before I got there.

WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK

#12

Noticing out loud that this conversation has drifted into comparison. That happens without anyone intending it and it does not help anyone. Let us come back to the person who asked.

GigiNaples, IT

#13

Have you got anyone who can be with you when you do it? It made an enormous difference to me and I felt silly asking.

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