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Being a single parent through the first three months

Started 16 December 2024 · 19 replies · 194 hearts · read 1.9k times

BexPlymouth, UK · 16 December 2024
1.6 years ago

Being a single parent through the first three months — putting it in its own thread so it does not get lost in the check-in.

Practical question, and possibly a silly one.

What I keep tripping on is not the physical bit. It is the not knowing whether what I am experiencing is normal, and having nobody to ask who is not either selling something or frightened for me.

Here is where I am. The medication side has been more or less as described, and the part nobody prepared me for is everything around it: what to say to people, how to plan a week, and how to tell the difference between a thing to endure and a thing to raise.

I have read the guides here, which were more useful than anything else I have found, and I still have a question they do not cover.

Thanks all. Genuinely.

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PipBristol, UK
#1

I have been in this circle a year and this question comes round every few months. It is not a silly question. It is the question.

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OrphBath, UK
#2

Similar here, and mine turned out to be a completely unrelated deficiency picked up on bloods.

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LuPreston, UK
#3

Mine lasted about seven weeks and then lifted over a few days. I cannot tell you why. I can tell you it lifted.

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the reply above — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

Thank you for writing this. I am not going to add information to it. I am going to say that what you have described is very common and very rarely said out loud.

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CarlMiddlesbrough, UK
#5

I would take that to a clinician rather than to us, and I would do it this week. Not because it is definitely serious — because it is the sort of thing that is much easier to rule out than to worry about.

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PoppyLeeds, UK
#6

Gently disagreeing with the reply above, or rather adding the other half of it.

Two things that helped me, neither of them clever: small amounts more often, and drinking a lot more than felt necessary.

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SindriReykjavík, IS
#7

What the reply above described happened to me too, in a slightly different order.

The phrase that unlocked my appointment was asking what specifically she wanted me to watch for. It moved us from reassurance to a plan in about thirty seconds.

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NanNeath, UK
#8

Different experience here, for balance. Mine did not improve and in the end I stopped, and that was the right call for me. Both outcomes exist.

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BramwellNottingham, UK
#9

Practical, boring answer: write the three questions down before you go in. I have never once remembered them otherwise.

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SalmaManchester, UK
#10

the reply above — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

I did exactly the same and felt terrible about it. You have not done anything wrong.

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TasnimBradford, UK
#11

Coming back to this a fortnight later to say it settled. Leaving the update because I hate reading threads that stop.

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NualaArmagh, NI
#12

Building on what the reply above wrote rather than answering the original question.

I am the person who had the frightening version of this. I went in, it was investigated, and it was not what anyone feared. Going in is the whole of my advice.

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OrvalWinnipeg, CA
#13

Gently disagreeing with the reply above, or rather adding the other half of it.

My experience was very boring, which I offer as data. Some of us just get a dull time of it.

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ZenBristol, UK
#14

What helped was lowering my own expectations of the week rather than trying to hold the week together.

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NemoneLewes, UK
#15

Please do not read the comments under news articles about this. I lost a fortnight to that.

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MarkCoventry, UK
#16

I asked my nurse the same question and she said something I have repeated ever since: that the aim is to keep you on treatment, not to get you up the schedule.

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HannahSheffield, UK
#17

Yes. All of this. I had the same in my third month and I remember thinking there was something specifically wrong with me, which there was not.

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What the reply above described happened to me too, in a slightly different order.

Before anyone offers a remedy: what has been described here is on the list of things that need a clinician today rather than a thread. I am going to be firm about that, kindly.

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OskarWarsaw, PL
#19

Gently disagreeing with the reply above, or rather adding the other half of it.

Can I gently push back on one thing? Not the substance, just the framing — you have written twice that you should be coping better. Who told you that?

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