The guilt of resenting it sometimes

Started 23 May 2025 · 19 replies · 180 hearts · read 1.7k times

IdrisCardiff, UK · 23 May 2025

about a year ago

Starting a thread on this because it keeps coming up in ones and twos: The guilt of resenting it sometimes

The logistics of this are defeating me more than the medicine is.

I have written down what has actually happened, in order, because I find that more useful than my summary of it.

Here is where I am. The medication side has been more or less as described, and the part nobody prepared me for is everything around it: what to say to people, how to plan a week, and how to tell the difference between a thing to endure and a thing to raise.

I will report back either way, because I have been helped by other people's follow-ups more than by their questions.

LandoLeeds, UK

I did exactly the same and felt terrible about it. You have not done anything wrong.

LinnetKendal, UK

Practical, boring answer: write the three questions down before you go in. I have never once remembered them otherwise.

7me too 4

WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK

Gently disagreeing with the reply above, or rather adding the other half of it.

Thank you for writing this. I am not going to add information to it. I am going to say that what you have described is very common and very rarely said out loud.

FitzLimerick, IE

The thing that changed it for me was going slower, agreed with my prescriber. I am not suggesting you do that. I am saying the conversation exists.

BramberSteyning, UK

My experience was very boring, which I offer as data. Some of us just get a dull time of it.

7me too 1

ÖzlemIzmir, TR

Reading the reply above, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

What helped was lowering my own expectations of the week rather than trying to hold the week together.

PamSouthport, UK

Coming back to this a fortnight later to say it settled. Leaving the update because I hate reading threads that stop.

NkosiJohannesburg, ZA

I am the person who had the frightening version of this. I went in, it was investigated, and it was not what anyone feared. Going in is the whole of my advice.

PipBristol, UK

Gently disagreeing with the reply above, or rather adding the other half of it.

Different experience here, for balance. Mine did not improve and in the end I stopped, and that was the right call for me. Both outcomes exist.

BrennaEnniskillen, NI

#10

The phrase that unlocked my appointment was asking what specifically she wanted me to watch for. It moved us from reassurance to a plan in about thirty seconds.

SableCape Town, ZA

#11

I would take that to a clinician rather than to us, and I would do it this week. Not because it is definitely serious — because it is the sort of thing that is much easier to rule out than to worry about.

GwythFishguard, UK

#12

Two things that helped me, neither of them clever: small amounts more often, and drinking a lot more than felt necessary.

8me too 9

SerenLlandudno, UK

#13

No advice, just recognition. That sounds exhausting and I am sorry you are in it.

IzoldaVilnius, LT

#14

the reply above — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

I keep a two-line diary and it is the only reason I could answer this question about myself. Worth starting even now.

ZoraSarajevo, BA

#15

Can I gently push back on one thing? Not the substance, just the framing — you have written twice that you should be coping better. Who told you that?

8me too 4

GigiNaples, IT

#16

the reply above said something I want to sit with for a second.

My pharmacist was more use than anyone. Ten minutes at the counter, no appointment, no charge.

IdrisCardiff, UK

#17

Reading the reply above, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

I am about four months behind you and I have been dreading exactly this, so thank you for writing it down before I got there.

WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK

#18

I want to slow this down a little. There are four different answers flying about and they are all somebody's real experience, which makes them true and not necessarily relevant to the person who asked.

LinnetKendal, UK

#19

Yes to the burping. It is real, it is unbeautiful, and it does settle.