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People bring casseroles and I cannot face them

Started 8 December 2025 · 10 replies · 85 hearts · read 1.7k times

NoraDublin, IE · 8 December 2025
7 months ago

Starting a thread on this because it keeps coming up in ones and twos: People bring casseroles and I cannot face them

This is a difficult one to write and I have deleted it twice.

I am aware some of this may be nothing. I would still like to know whether other people have had it, because I have spent a fortnight assuming I am the only one.

I have written down what has actually happened, in order, because I find that more useful than my summary of it.

Sorry for the length. If anyone has been here, I would very much like to hear it.

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TiborBratislava, SK
#1

Different experience here, for balance. Mine did not improve and in the end I stopped, and that was the right call for me. Both outcomes exist.

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BronwenBarry, UK
#2

The phrase that unlocked my appointment was asking what specifically she wanted me to watch for. It moved us from reassurance to a plan in about thirty seconds.

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WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK
#3

Two things, both boring. First, none of us can tell you what to take. Second, the conversation you want to have is with your prescriber, and we can help you write it down.

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NerysRhyl, UK
#4

I keep a two-line diary and it is the only reason I could answer this question about myself. Worth starting even now.

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OsgarKillarney, IE
#5

Yes. All of this. I had the same in my third month and I remember thinking there was something specifically wrong with me, which there was not.

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BibiRabat, MA
#6

Reading the reply above, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

Mine lasted about seven weeks and then lifted over a few days. I cannot tell you why. I can tell you it lifted.

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MaudGhent, BE
#7

the reply above — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

Two things that helped me, neither of them clever: small amounts more often, and drinking a lot more than felt necessary.

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NoraDublin, IE
#8

I would take that to a clinician rather than to us, and I would do it this week. Not because it is definitely serious — because it is the sort of thing that is much easier to rule out than to worry about.

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WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK
#9

Thank you for writing this. I am not going to add information to it. I am going to say that what you have described is very common and very rarely said out loud.

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BronwenBarry, UK
#10

Reading the reply above, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

For what it is worth, the trial data on this is thinner than the confidence of the internet would suggest. Worth knowing when you read the posts.

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