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What my bereavement counsellor said about eating

Started 15 April 2025 · 16 replies · 173 hearts · read 2.1k times

NoraDublin, IE · 15 April 2025
1.3 years ago

Something I have been sitting with: What my bereavement counsellor said about eating Not looking for advice so much as other people's experience.

This is a difficult one to write and I have deleted it twice.

I have read the guides here, which were more useful than anything else I have found, and I still have a question they do not cover.

The thing that has surprised me most is how much of this is about other people rather than about me.

My prescriber has been fine, genuinely. The problem is that I get nine minutes twice a year and there is no version of nine minutes that covers this.

Thanks all. Genuinely.

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NúriaBarcelona, ES
#1

Mine lasted about seven weeks and then lifted over a few days. I cannot tell you why. I can tell you it lifted.

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NerysRhyl, UK
#2

Yes. All of this. I had the same in my third month and I remember thinking there was something specifically wrong with me, which there was not.

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MaudGhent, BE
#3

Building on what the opening post wrote rather than answering the original question.

I have been in this circle a year and this question comes round every few months. It is not a silly question. It is the question.

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WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK
#4

I want to slow this down a little. There are four different answers flying about and they are all somebody's real experience, which makes them true and not necessarily relevant to the person who asked.

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TiborBratislava, SK
#5

I asked my nurse the same question and she said something I have repeated ever since: that the aim is to keep you on treatment, not to get you up the schedule.

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BronwenBarry, UK
#6

the reply above said something I want to sit with for a second.

Please do not read the comments under news articles about this. I lost a fortnight to that.

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OsgarKillarney, IE
#7

What helped was lowering my own expectations of the week rather than trying to hold the week together.

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NoraDublin, IE
#8

My experience was very boring, which I offer as data. Some of us just get a dull time of it.

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NúriaBarcelona, ES
#9

I am the person who had the frightening version of this. I went in, it was investigated, and it was not what anyone feared. Going in is the whole of my advice.

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NerysRhyl, UK
#10

the reply above said something I want to sit with for a second.

Coming back to this a fortnight later to say it settled. Leaving the update because I hate reading threads that stop.

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MaudGhent, BE
#11

Similar here, and mine turned out to be a completely unrelated deficiency picked up on bloods.

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BibiRabat, MA
#12

Two things that helped me, neither of them clever: small amounts more often, and drinking a lot more than felt necessary.

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TiborBratislava, SK
#13

Gently disagreeing with the reply above, or rather adding the other half of it.

I did exactly the same and felt terrible about it. You have not done anything wrong.

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BronwenBarry, UK
#14

Practical, boring answer: write the three questions down before you go in. I have never once remembered them otherwise.

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WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK
#15

the reply above — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

Gently: you have apologised three times in a post where you have done nothing that requires an apology.

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NoraDublin, IE
#16

I would take that to a clinician rather than to us, and I would do it this week. Not because it is definitely serious — because it is the sort of thing that is much easier to rule out than to worry about.

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