Mood at 52 and attributing it correctly

Started 25 April 2025 · 20 replies · 208 hearts · read 3.4k times

WellsChester, UK · 25 April 2025

about a year ago

Something I have been sitting with: Mood at 52 and attributing it correctly Not looking for advice so much as other people's experience.

Bringing this here rather than to the general circle because the specifics change the answer.

Here is where I am. The medication side has been more or less as described, and the part nobody prepared me for is everything around it: what to say to people, how to plan a week, and how to tell the difference between a thing to endure and a thing to raise.

What I keep tripping on is not the physical bit. It is the not knowing whether what I am experiencing is normal, and having nobody to ask who is not either selling something or frightened for me.

Sorry for the length. If anyone has been here, I would very much like to hear it.

AbramAmsterdam, NL

Have you got anyone who can be with you when you do it? It made an enormous difference to me and I felt silly asking.

8me too 3

LeniLeipzig, DE

Building on what the opening post wrote rather than answering the original question.

The thing that changed it for me was going slower, agreed with my prescriber. I am not suggesting you do that. I am saying the conversation exists.

BettinaGraz, AT

the reply above said something I want to sit with for a second.

I did exactly the same and felt terrible about it. You have not done anything wrong.

AdaFacilitatorManchester, UK

Noticing out loud that this conversation has drifted into comparison. That happens without anyone intending it and it does not help anyone. Let us come back to the person who asked.

Birdie BWhitstable, UK

the reply above said something I want to sit with for a second.

Coming back to this a fortnight later to say it settled. Leaving the update because I hate reading threads that stop.

HollyBath, UK

I am the person who had the frightening version of this. I went in, it was investigated, and it was not what anyone feared. Going in is the whole of my advice.

8me too 7

MarnieAyr, UK

My experience was very boring, which I offer as data. Some of us just get a dull time of it.

LlianCarmarthen, UK

What helped was lowering my own expectations of the week rather than trying to hold the week together.

NyreeChristchurch, NZ

the reply above said something I want to sit with for a second.

Please do not read the comments under news articles about this. I lost a fortnight to that.

HannahSheffield, UK

#10

I asked my nurse the same question and she said something I have repeated ever since: that the aim is to keep you on treatment, not to get you up the schedule.

FenellaCirencester, UK

#11

Mine lasted about seven weeks and then lifted over a few days. I cannot tell you why. I can tell you it lifted.

GwynforLlanidloes, UK

#12

the reply above — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

Yes. All of this. I had the same in my third month and I remember thinking there was something specifically wrong with me, which there was not.

HalCambridge, UK

#13

I have been in this circle a year and this question comes round every few months. It is not a silly question. It is the question.

CoralieMarseille, FR

#14

Similar here, and mine turned out to be a completely unrelated deficiency picked up on bloods.

WellsChester, UK

#15

The phrase that unlocked my appointment was asking what specifically she wanted me to watch for. It moved us from reassurance to a plan in about thirty seconds.

AbramAmsterdam, NL

#16

Different experience here, for balance. Mine did not improve and in the end I stopped, and that was the right call for me. Both outcomes exist.

LeniLeipzig, DE

#17

Building on what the reply above wrote rather than answering the original question.

I would take that to a clinician rather than to us, and I would do it this week. Not because it is definitely serious — because it is the sort of thing that is much easier to rule out than to worry about.

BettinaGraz, AT

#18

Two things that helped me, neither of them clever: small amounts more often, and drinking a lot more than felt necessary.

7me too 4

AdaFacilitatorManchester, UK

#19

Reading the reply above, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

Two things, both boring. First, none of us can tell you what to take. Second, the conversation you want to have is with your prescriber, and we can help you write it down.

Birdie BWhitstable, UK

#20

Can I gently push back on one thing? Not the substance, just the framing — you have written twice that you should be coping better. Who told you that?

7me too 7